There is a reason so many of our teens and preteens behave as if they are immortal, acting on impulse without considering the consequences. Blame it partially on their brain.

The part of the brain that promotes impulsivity and risk-taking develops early in teens, while the brain area responsible for thinking, planning, good judgment, decision-making and impulse control is undergoing the most change (and will continue to develop well into a person’s mid-twenties). Because of this lack of brain maturity, teens and preteens do not have the ability to control impulses like adults do, which in turn increases an adolescent’s chance of engaging in risky behavior, like smoking, drinking and illegal drug use.

In this critical stage of development, your child needs a parent, not a “trusting” friend, to step in, set clear boundaries and serve as that impulse control.

How You Can Help Your Child:

• Explain the risks of alcohol, tobacco and other drug use
• Talk early and often
• Set clear non-use rules
• Know your child’s friends (and their parents)
• Know where your child is at all times
• Play an active role in your child’s daily life

Sources: American Medical Association: Alcohol's adverse effects on the brains of children, adolescents and college students. Califano, Joseph, Jr.: How to Raise a Drug-Free Kid, The Straight Dope for Parents, NY, 2009. ParentsEmpowered.org: Utah Department of Alcoholic Beverage Control and Utah Prevention.